Author Daneille Snowden

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When I was 7 years old I was born again! Five years later, the Lord filled me with His Holy Spirit and called me out to serve in full time service in the ministry. My heart is missions and a longing to love people into God's Kingdom.
I love to teach God's Word, pray with people and write. 
Soon, we are hoping our Jesus opens amazing doors to walk into mission endeavors.

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

BRINGING PEACE TO YOUR HUSBAND

  Two posts (blogs) ago I said I would continue to look at attaining true peace in our lives. [Sweet Tranquility] Then I promised you that I would continue to expound on having this peace spread through out our home beginning with ‘we’ ladies being the vessel of peace for our husbands.  As I have prayed over this, studied it in God’s Word and in other resources for quite awhile…my ending prognosis is that this study could continue for decades!
Peace; we pray for peace, it's our New Years Resolutions ...it is a salutation in most countries. Yet, everywhere we turn we only observe fruits of turmoil (opposite of peace). 
In three thousand  three hundred and fifty years between 1500 B.C. and 1850 A.D. there were only 286 years spent without a war taking place on the globe somewhere. That's thirteen years of war for every year of peace. At that same period of time eight thousand peace treaties were broken. 
Today;  2 million couples have used a lethal weapon on their spouses in their life times.
3-4 million women are beaten by their husbands every year.
2.7 million children are beaten, maimed, murdered, or seriously neglected every year in this country.
Panic anxiety is the number one mental-health problem for women in the United States and in men it is second only to substance abuse. Stress has become a way of life.
Thus, the amazing need for peace! Where to start but at home and with that, there is no better place in 'The Home' to begin than between husband and wife.
My husband works hard, he comes home wore out mentally and physically. God has instilled a great call in my personal life as a wife to usher peace in his life. I want to share some simple things we all should do to help our husbands to continue to be Godly Men of Valor and thus blessing us in return.


I.) Pray first: before speaking about difficult issues & trials…get the mind of Christ.
       Philippians 4:6:
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
        verse 7:
“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
-When we spend more time with God consistently, we become more stable in our emotions to withstand just about anything.
In so doing the  Holy Spirit will  lead…  Bringing peace as we follow His leading in praying through the scriptures. 
“God will change your marriage if you pray. Prayer has the power to accomplish what nothing else can.” [Transform Your Marriage through the Power of Prayer Whitney Hopler] (1)
----Take authority over it with prayer in Jesus’ Name to release God’s power to work in both you and your spouse’s lives.          “Your job is to accept your spouse as he or she is and pray for God to work in his or her life. Only God can bring about changes that will last.”  (1)



II.) Are you speaking out of irritation or frustration?  Husbands or just anyone’s natural response when spoken to in this manner is to retreat within themselves. This is a defensive mode. Is this where we really want ‘the love of our lives’ to reside? "Word softly (fitly) spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver."


III.)  Anger & Rudeness: Try not to dwell continually on his part but yours….walk in love and not anger w/our speech being that of grace, peace and truth…NOT rude or anger (this includes our tone as well). 
       Colossians 4: 6 “Let your speech at all times be gracious (pleasant and winsome), seasoned [as it were] with salt, [so that you may never be at a loss] to know how you ought to answer anyone [who puts a question to you].” 
       Proverbs 25: 15“By long forbearance and calmness of spirit a judge or ruler is persuaded, and soft speech breaks down the most bonelike resistance.”  
       Proverbs 15: 1 “A SOFT answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.” 
      Proverbs 12:18  “Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing.”
       Ephesians 4:26  “And "don't sin by letting anger gain control over you." Don't let the sun go down   while you are still angry.” 
       Proverbs 21:19   “It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.”



IV.) Forgiveness  When we have been ‘put-down’, betrayed and just basically hurt. That sinful nature embedded within man longs to take revenge in some way or another. Typically woman do so with the ‘silent treatment’ or ‘lashing out’ or how about just placing that ‘guilt card’ in the back pocket for just the right time! This is taking revenge, yet we all know this is not what the Word of God instructs us to do. 
  Corrie Ten Boom said, “Forgiveness is setting the prisoner free, only to find out that the prisoner was me.” 
Proverbs 17:9 says, “He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.”  
“Forgiveness entails giving up your right to punish your spouse – whether through direct retaliation or just letting bitterness fester.” [When Your Spouse Lets You Down: How to Forgive and Forget  by Dr. Dave Currie] (3) 
Colossians 3:13 says, “Bear with each another and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” 

V.) Be willing to repent.= to God & your husband (1)

VI.) Communicate Openly/Peacefully

VII.) Let it go   “Let go Let God.”  Surrender all to Him…by doing this you will be letting God and  your husband lead, taking care of situations the way he sees fit (even if you feel your are right/unless serious harm could be done). “In order to live in peace and harmony someone has to give up some things that may not have you and your spouse on one accord. Sometimes it will be you, but if you are submissive to your husband it will not be that difficult.” (2)

VIII.) Humble  “Submissive means to humbly obey. That means to not always have an opinion, but to let your husband make some decisions and follow. You are to do this without anger or resentment but with joy and no arguments.” [How to Be Submissive to Your Husband ( When You Are A Strong woman)  By Faye-Faye] (2)
James 4:6 says, “But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble‘.” 
Ask our selves this questions; “Are we more interested in getting our point across than listening to our spouse?

IX.) Remember Your Vows   When you were married you promised that you would obey (or even to submit) your husband. As it says in Ephesians 5:22 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord." 

X.) Depression or Negative emotions  spoils the atmosphere : this can destroy a marriage. Depression is rooted in fears mostly as well as rejection & loneliness. Being freed from this, which only God can do will heal and bring peace in your own soul thus your marriage, i.e.: your husband. (1)

XI.) Honor Him      Titus 2:1-15  “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. …”
    Cutting him down, even if we/you are right -is NOT Honoring him. Absolutely NEVER in front of anyone (especially our children) are we to say cutting words -bridle the tongue and allow God’s Peace to reign in great abundance.
“Our sinful natures guarantee conflict within a marriage, no matter how much the individual spouses are committed to each other. It's how spouses handle these conflicts that is crucial.” [ Ken Sande-www.peacemaker.net site] 

Take time now or very soon to ask God to show you how you can be an instrument of peace for your husband. 
Pray with me now; "Dear Lord Jesus, I ask you to forgive me of allowing my own pride, hurts, unforgiveness, and anger to cause any turmoil in my home. Turn my heart back totally to You. Give me Your love, Your Words, Your Heart for my husband. Help me to serve You by serving Him. In Jesus' Name I do pray. -Amen"


Couple of Books:
PEACE MAKING WOMAN  Biblical Hope for Resolving Conflict by Ken Sande

What Makes A Man Feel Loved by Bob Barnes 
“Barnes give wives the unique opportunity to discover what men think about priorities, desires, and approaches to difficult situations. Biblical principles and practical advice helps women understand the male perspective, their husbands' needs, emotional and physical differences.” 

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Wednesday, April 20, 2011

LOVE GREW

Al & Beth Roberts Children convey their love for Christ's Resurrection. (Jaron, Jared & Gracie)

"Love grew where the Blood fell. Flowers of Hope sprang out for men in misery. SIN DIED...where the BLOOD FELL, I am so glad His Precious Blood has covered me." 

THROUGH-OUT THIS POST PLEASE NOTE THE SWEET DRAWINGS PRECIOUS CHILDREN DREW; CONVEYING THEIR LOVE FOR JESUS.

I use to sing that song every Good Friday while we Pastored in Texas. The power of this reality  still rings true today. "Sin died...where the Blood fell!"  He  suffered and died, why? Not because of Him-but because He loved Man! Wow!
This Good Friday marks three important birthdays in my family...my son, Nathan (physically is 19) will be 15 years in the Lord then Felecia  (who is 12 yrs. phys.) will be 8 years in the Lord; I had the Honor to be the vessel used of God to lead them into the Kingdom. My husband, Brad led our youngest Tabitha  (8 yrs.) old to Jesus as well; she will be three years.  
Felecia Snowden feels her love of Jesus' sacrifice deeply.

We can never under estimate the power of the parent. In Deut. 6 we are instructed to constantly be teaching our children in every way and at all times God's Word and yes His Love. 
Tabitha (Tabby) even adds the purple. She recognizes the Love that Jesus showed then and now.
My husband and I have the vision from God that WE (He and I) are the ones to teach, train and love our children into the Kingdom (and disciple as well) along the way. 
Take a quick look at these Stats: 
"...less than two out of three adults (63%) who were churched as children take their own children to a church." [Barna]


"The most shocking ... revealed that adults from both the churched-as-children and unchurched-as-children segments held similar views - often at odds with biblical teaching - regarding the existence of the Holy Spirit, the reality of Satan, the means to eternal salvation, the perceived accuracy of the Bible, and the holiness of Jesus Christ."  [Barna]

"Seven in 10 Protestants ages 18 to 30 — both evangelical and mainline — who went to church regularly in high school said they quit attending by age 23, according to the survey by LifeWay Research. And 34% of those said they had not returned, even sporadically, by age 30. That means about one in four Protestant young people have left the church." [USA Today; C. Grossman]

Why are young people dropping out of the church and more so turning from the Lord; Who loves them dearly? Reasons that were stated is that they felt people don't care, too busy, as well as;...

"More than half (52%) had religious, ethical or political reasons..." [Grossman] 

Question to my readers in the retrospect that  God gave us our children...we are the vessels that God used for them to live in this world. Ok, then why is it that adults leave the Spiritual teachings and  discipleship up to the Church? In my understanding, the church is a supplement not the main resource. God made parents to shepherd our sheep. (I am coming from a heart of a pastor!) If we show we care as well as being diligent in teaching them about God's Word, His love and how to serve Him-facts do state for themselves our kids will serve Christ even as adults. 

I grew up in  a godly home. I attended Sunday School, went to church my entire life. Yet, the #1 Reason I serve Jesus today is because I saw, heard and felt God's love and grace from my parents---DAILY!

I asked a few friends to send me pictures that their children drew and colored about Jesus, Easter and the Cross. As well as for them to tell me what Jesus means to them personally. These are parents who I have seen teach JESUS, in their homes. I see God's love in the hearts of their precious children. 

Parents lets; "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." [Prov. 22:6]
My girlfriend Vicky's daughter...love those crosses.


I will fight for my children's souls by working hard now to live Christ before them, show His Grace...help them to know all about the CROSS in every way. How about you?
My girlfriend's little boy...can't you see the Joy?












Back to the beginning of my post; "Love Grew!" Love grew, hear my heart...Jesus' Blood is alive today. He lives in our hearts; we transport that love (infusion) into the hearts of children. As we see them physically grow we also shall see our 'baby's' precious little souls grow in God, planted richly in Him...fed with the nutrients of His Word coming from hearts that love them with all our life. 
"Love grew where the Blood 
fell...flowers of HOPE sprang out..."   
"...It broke the chains of sin and set man free!"

Monday, April 11, 2011

Sweet Tranquility

I am sitting here before my old computer draped with a lovely knitted blanket on my shoulders. A slight chill tonight, though I believe it isn't the chill keeping me awake this evening but the Starbucks Coffee I had a bit too late in the day. Thus, as my tired soul mate drifted to sleep snoozing away; my mind starts to meditate on my Lord and His blessings, one being my lovely family.
Lately, I have been a bit on the 'up-tight' side. Maybe tense is a better word, I know that as now I am in the midst of my 40's there are chemical issues happening within...but I also know serving the Lord as long as I have, there are also spiritual issues to always take into account! Do I hear an 'Amen'?
The Lord laid on my heart to once again pray for HIS  Peace over each room in our house, over every soul in our family as well as our church. Without peace there is tension, sharp words, exhaustion (from restless sleep), melancholic emotions and sometimes depression.
"PEACE is defined to be a state of quiet, or tranquility, freedom from disturbance or agitation--calmness, repose."
So, I obeyed my Jesus and prayed for His Peace.
The words, "Peace, be still!" Rang loudly in my heart-I can see my Lord looking with a sternness in His eyes towards the storm as He said this. Praise Him! He does this now, He has given us that authority to do that today in our lives.
Thank You Jesus-for Your Peace, a Peace that passes all our understandings!
"For He is [Himself] our peace (our bond of unity and harmony). He has made us both [Jew and Gentile] one [body], and has broken down (destroyed, abolished) the hostile dividing wall between us." Ephesians 2: 14
"You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind [both its inclination and its character] is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You."Isaiah 26: 3
1-Harmony with God brings Peace. Do this by dwelling in His Presence and His Word; DAILY!
2-Trust; trust His laws, His Word...not allowing then fear to even take residence in the Mind & Heart.
3-This really goes with #1 but worship..worship Jesus, daily. Sing songs of praise and adoration...not only will this edify the Lord & Savior of your soul, but this will also bring your mind/heart focused on Him (and NOT the storms in life).
Shalom
Coming Up: Making Sure that there is Peace for your mate.

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Home School Convention: Adding to our Biblical World View

Question; what is it that drives you; thrusts you into decisions and then actions?  What affects your emotions? This sure is something that we all must ponder? Whatever the answer may be the result is your definition what your personal World View is.
Did you like your answers? If not then maybe it's time to get before your Lord, open His Word and ask Him what He desires for your life resulting in a true Biblical World View.
"A worldview is the framework from which we view reality and make sense of life and the world." [Del Tackett] http://www.focusonthefamily.com/faith/christian_worldview/whats_a_christian_worldview.aspx?vm=r
A vision my husband and I have that we are feeling a major 'drive' towards is developing a strong Biblical World View into our own children.
Let me tell you about one major world view we know the Lord has led us into. It is home schooling our children.  "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Prov. 22:6
Deuteronomy 6 is also our fall back as we go about living this life style in being the ones who are teaching our children. Verses 6-9; "These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. 7Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates."


Cincinnati, OH
An opportunity arose for us to once again instill this vision and directive from God into our blessed children's hearts, this was the Cincinnati Home School Convention hosted by The Great Home School Convention; March 31-April 2. Droves of workshops were presented to us and what seemed like hundreds of vendors. Most presenting the vision God laid on our hearts many years ago that we have tried to live out before our precious kids.
I know I was walking on clouds! My head was spinning, my heart was pounding and my mouth wouldn't stop chattering. As I would talk with different workshop speakers tears would fill my eyes. I didn't feel alone, as well as the Lord revealing to my heart that "yes" we are doing the right thing and we are indeed walking on the right path!
Though there were many speakers conveying the vision God had given them, we of course were limited to just a few that was possible for us to attend. We did, "divide and conquer!"
John Stonestreet  & Sean McDowell
My son enjoyed:   John Stonestreet of Summit Ministries http://www.summit.org/He listened to him speak on: Amused to Death: Dealing with Entertainment Culture.
"This seminar exposed the worldviews at work in entertainment today, but it faces seriously questions such as:  'Where do we draw the line?' 'Should a Christian listen to “secular” music?' 'What is a Christian band?'  'What is going on in popular culture?'
Nathan listened  to  Sean McDowel with World View Ministries. http://www.seanmcdowell.org/

Jim Weiss


Nathan's favorite is Jim Weiss. He has been reading G.A. Henty books as long as he can remember. We have purchased Jim's fun filled story c.d.'s for him through out the years. Nathan's love for history only mounted up more as he listened to Jim share about history of the ages.  Jim is with Great Hall Productions that has award winning story telling productions for children. http://www.greathall.com/?vm=r

As Brad and I were listening to Ted Tripp (Shepherding a Child’s Heart.); Felecia went to hear:  PATTI GARIBAY Empowering Girls along with Character Development. This only enriched the teachings of purity and courtship we so believe in.
Tedd Tripp
When someone begins home schooling or just shows a true desire to raise their children in a godly fashion; the number one book I suggest is Tedd Tripp's book I just referenced. It is life changing, opens your eyes to God's Word on how to love, nurture and yes TRAIN your child with a godly, Christ-like spirit. The session we attended was focused on this exactly. http://www.gfchazleton.org/ministry/shepherding_ministries.htm?vm=r 

                                                                           






David Gibbs

My husband Brad just devoured all what attorney David Gibbs shared. An Insider’s Account of the Terri Schaivo tragedy, and what it means for us all./Parental Rights Amendment – IS IT NECESSARY? IS IT  DANGEROUS? Brad came bouncing out of his sessions with fire and zeal on what he learned. http://homeschoollegaladvantage.com/about/david-gibbs-iii/?vm=r


My tired self & Sandi Queen
   Queen Home School curriculum is one of my favorite suppliers. Sandi Queen has written several books and curricula using the Charlotte Mason method. I have used her language arts, copy work and lovely little books on womanhood and courtship. She is a true sweet spirited lady that began writing her own curriculum just for her own children, then the Lord expanded this to bless us all! Thanks Sandi and I so enjoyed talking with you again. http://www.queenhomeschool.com/?vm=r

                                                                                                                                   

Diana Waring

My favorite history teacher/history workshop speaker (and I use some of her curriculum) is Diana Waring. What a sharp lady and boy can she ever say an enormous amount of info in such a short period of time. Our entire family enjoyed her and could listen to her all day! We have her cd's that we take in our van and just love hearing her share about so so much about history. http://dianawaring.com/index.html   Check out her new online journal: http://homeschoolblogger.com/dianawaring/ .  




Uncle Josh with Tabitha (on left) Felecia (on right)
When Felecia was just beginning  school we attended the Evansville, IN home school convention where we were just innocently scooting along the vendor hall where this very bold gentleman started up a conversation with my girl. We spent less than 10 minutes with Josh Wiggers (we all call him Uncle Josh) where he taught her all the continents and their locations. Of course we purchased some curriculum and through out the years bought more. For almost 8 years we have used Geography Matters as our daily geography curricula. The kids have LOVED it and I am tellin ya folks-they have learned so much! His wife Cindy is the author of their geography lessons; the one we use is: Trail Guide to World Geography. http://www.geomatters.com/?vm=r


Doug Phillips Vision Forum

As a family we all enjoyed Doug Phillips. I would have to say he is an icon in home schooling with his company Vision Forum. Doug first taught us on:
Providence and Perseverance: God's Message of History to Our Children/The Family Table
Both was enjoyable, would have to say that the Family Table convicted me-what I needed. With the busyness of life...I have seen the Family Table slowly fade out of our lives. Schedules can be an enemy to the family for sure! http://www.visionforum.com/?vm=r  




Amanda Bennett (Unit Study Queen)




Amanda Bennett; as I wrote a few month back when I wrote about Unit Studies I call the Queen of Unit Studies. She laughed, yet had to agree with me when we had the opportunity to chat a bit at her booth. A snap shot was taken but didn't work (never take an unfamiliar camera with you to important places). I did attend a workshop of hers, it was encouraging to listen and meet such a fine and talented lady. http://www.unitstudy.com/?vm=r



Shelley Noonan with my girls Tabitha (left) Felecia (right)
Ok, I am saving MY FAVORITE for last. Pumpkin Seed Press-Shelley Noonan. I attended two of her workshops, bought the books...and loved chatting with her as well. My girls we overjoyed talking with Shelley and listening to her speak. Shelley spoke on:  Welcome to Womanhood! For mom's only, I was very educated and now ready to apply what new aspects I have learned. (smile) She also spoke to us on: 
Mentoring your Daughter. So many mom's have left mentoring all together or somehow expect the church, other educators and perhaps our girls friends to mentor our daughters. Oh what a rich blessing it is to be used of God for this High calling. Pumpkin Seed Press is at http://www.pumpkinseedpress.net/default.asp. Shelley also has a sweet, helpful blog for mom's and their daughters http://blog.pumpkinseedpress.net/ called B'Twixted & B'Tween. She teaches puritywith beautiful girlhood aspects. There is so much more.


Snowden's lovin on 'Big Boy'!

We have been eating vegan 8 months...but we do have our 'blow-out' sessions. Well, we did when we saw Big Boys. Our family never gets the chance to eat at these unless we are travelling. So, hey we felt we needed to celebrate so yahoo! It was GOOD!

My 19 yr. old son said he wanted to attend more of these conventions this year. Thank God!
So, here we go-God has added more to our Biblical World View by supplying us yet another tool to live for Him!